🎶Another one for the ladies. 🎶

Did you know that there are only two queens regnant left in the world? That is.. Queen Elizabeth II of England, who I’m sure you know about.. and Queen Margrethe II of Denmark. And did you know that the two queens are actually close friends and third cousins.

A queen regnant (plural: queens regnant) is a female monarch, equivalent in rank to a king, who reigns in her own right.

Meaning of the title.

‘Real Queens Fix Each Other’s Crowns’. Every time I see this quote, the weight of the words always stirs up something inside me. Why?

Firstly, It speaks of an act of service and humility. It speaks of a queen being able to help out a fellow queen, and I’m not talking about the queens regnant here. A queen is every woman that graces the earth, because a queen is a leader, and to be a woman is to be a leader. It’s an act of service because it means getting off your throne to help out a fellow woman in any way possible.

Secondly, you can’t fix what you can’t see. This quote speaks of a woman who is able to see another woman’s crown. It means being able to embrace that other women are beautiful, worthy, talented, unique, powerful, special and worth every other praise. It’s being able to realize that as much as you are a piece of art, so are other women.

Lastly, it speaks of what it means to be a ‘real’ queen. By virtue of being a woman, you are a queen, but to be a real queen, you have to be able to see beyond yourself. Real queens know that they need each other, they don’t tear down each other’s monarchs so as to get ahead, instead, they build alliances that they use to help each other out. They don’t see each other as enemies, competitors or threats, but as assets.

This quote reminds me to think twice before I do or say anything that may put down another woman instead of helping lift her up. Be a real queen!

Don’t tear each other down.

Queen…the highest form of praise a girl can give another. For it means she elevates to the highest form, birthed from the mother. When I see girls call each other queens on the gram, it warms my heart, just to see queens support fellow queens.

So why would some girls bring others down?

Tear down the altars

Slut-shaming, fat-shaming

You-know-she-isn’t-shit shaming

All just to avoid competition from your fellow sister.

I know I wouldn’t be where I am without the different girls I’ve crossed paths with who pushed me, inspired me and wouldn’t take any mediocrity from me and other girls. This league of soul sisters who I meet at spoken word gigs, events, randomly (I’ve righteously been part of the drunk girl in the bathroom scenario), I’m never the same after meeting them. (shoutout to Foi and Jaaziyah).

I have been the victim of shaming by girls, whose purpose was to break down my spirit. If it wasn’t for this league of soul-sisters I would probably be holed up in the house, afraid of everything and everyone. I wouldn’t want to imagine another girl going through the same, afraid to express herself creatively or just be themselves. Uplift a sister today. She will never forget it!!


Uplift each other.

I have never been the –

Pretty girl; the girl who all the boys chase after,

Never been the –

Smart girl; whose grades put anyone to shame,

Never been the –

One who life is kind to; my wrists are etched with my disappointment in myself.

But I have never been the –

“I’m not like other girls” girl,

Never been the –

“Tear another girl down” girl,

The –

“I’m better than other girls” girl,

The –

“He has to pick me over her” girl.

Because all women are honey dipped in gold; we have struggles we have faced that we can relate to,

I’m the “uplift queens” type of girl, “give her a space to cry” type of girl, “find her in the bathroom of a club and tell her she’s beautiful” type of girl.

You may not be HIS type of girl but that’s okay.

Queens never needed anyone to begin with.

Jaaziyah. Thank you so much to these lovely ladies @mumbi_keziah and @jaaziyah for this collaboration and @_shitanda_ for the awesome photography.

Queens, take some time to appreciate a fellow queen, and remind them that they are worthy.

That’s it for today. Hope that your last days of 2017 will be full of light, love, joy, grace and peace. See you back here next year. God bless your December.

Remember to be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud. Xx

Glow and Grow. Xx

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  1. Now queen, you got me real good when you mentioned queens creating alliances over tearing each other’s monarchs. When women come together, impossible becomes a joke, I really hope we would realize that.
    Otherwise, keep shining!

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