Hello beautiful people. I hope that you’ve been great. I’m back at it again with another episode of the urembo series.
Body size is and has always been a major factor in how the society deems beauty. Let’s see what a few lovely ladies have to say about body size and this concept of beauty, their journeys and what they’ve learnt along the way.
Is curvy beautiful?
It’s been a rather hard journey coming to accept my body, from trying to starve myself to trying to purge all the food I’ve eaten so it doesn’t store as fat. It reached a point where it affected my relationships , my studies and even my emotional balance. But I must say, over the past years I have transitioned from fierce self judgment to a nourishing relationship with my body.
I long to live in a world where women feel delicious about their bodies. Imagine spending all the time you spend hating your body on something else ? Like investing? Building relationships ? Going on trips? Because it takes that kind of energy to keep up with the constant self-berating and shaming . Free up yourself from the body hate spell and you’ll notice everything will start going right. You’re strong enough to get through it.
One thing I as a “curvy woman” have experienced a lot is sexual innuendo and sexual harassment. My curves to men and women suddenly seem to serve as an invitation to objectify me especially through being catcalled using names such as “number nane” “Vera sidika” “64GB”, which exasperates me. However, I realised that my hips are a mark of gracefulness, a rich heritage, and a part of my body, which is me, and denying a part of my body means denying me.
Therefore, today I sway with confidence and grace with each step and remember this stanza from one of my favourite poems Still I Rise by Maya Angelou “…does my sassyness upset you? Why are you beset with gloom? Cause I walk like I got oil wells pumping in my living room?’ So to you curvy woman, walk with grace and poise like you got oil wells pumping in your living room!
The best advice I ever got on body confidence? “You don’t owe anyone a flat stomach sweetie. Live your life!”…and that really hit me. It’s okay to want a banging body, but it also needs to be okay for you to love your current edges and curves just as they are. The lightning and thunder on your thighs, and the scars on your arms. Be more accepting and loving of the you that is here now as you work on the better you of tomorrow. Stay Strong, Stay Fighting.
⁃Wambui Kang’ara (Sunshine)
So what if I don’t fit into the world’s standards of beauty?
For the longest time I struggled looking at a mirror and seeing beauty, because shaped in my mind was the image that ‘curvy’ was what was acceptably beautiful. Puberty did nothing for me, physically, it didn’t give me that glow up everyone else gets. I believe my glow up began when I started loving my body. I’ve realized that when you feel beautiful from the inside, it overflows to the outside. How you look, how you dress and how you carry yourself is shaped by your perception of your own beauty. It’s a process, start it and never stop.
Growing up as a petite child has been a bitter sweet kind of experience. Sweet because buying clothes and shoes has been such breeze. Also, you can eat anything and it will barely show. Then there’s the down side like hearing comments that suggest that you don’t fit into whatever body ideals that people have nowadays.
However, I’m thankful for all the experiences cause without them I wouldn’t have come to accept the challenge which is self love and being my number one fan.
What is true beauty?
Beauty is confidence no matter your size or weight. Be confident in who you are and you’ll be beautiful. I’ve come to embrace this and live by this because my body is a work of art. I’ve learnt to love it and flaunt it.
Don’t judge me by my skin color , my hair color, my body size or my outer beauty. If you do, you’ll miss entirely who I am. There’ll always be someone more beautiful in your eyes, better shaped, etc. Me realizing that and accepting it is my form of body confidence.
The thing I’ve had to realise about body image is that no one can give you the affirmation you need except you. Your glow has to come from within before it spreads to the surface. It’s not the easiest journey but self love is a me thing. Self love is something you have to constantly keep teaching and re-teaching yourself.
– Lisa Mwangi
There you have it. I hope this inspires you to love yourself in every shape and size. I’ve tagged these lovely ladies’ IG handles on my IG, so you can check them out.
What is your journey with coming to love your body size? Share your stories and experiences in the comments below. We’d love to hear from you.
Remember to share this with every woman, to remind them that they are not alone, and to every man, to remind them that preference doesn’t cancel out other women’s beauty.
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