Have you ever felt like giving up? Like straight up saying you’re done with everything and just letting it all go? I have. So many times. Even as I write this, I’m gradually crawling myself out of that phase. I could easily pretend that I have my whole life figured out, but I don’t, and that’s okay. So, this blog post is for anyone at this place where you want to give up, anyone who’s been here, and anyone who might end up being at this place one day. My hope is that even as I encourage myself, I’m encouraging you too.
The cyclic process
When you are in a hard place, dealing with loss of a loved one, failure or disappointment, getting over a heartbreak, recovering from addiction etc, everyone always emphasizes… ‘you’ll be fine’.. ‘no pain no gain’ and as I put it in my blog post… ‘you can’t grow at your comfort zone’.. and ‘God can’t give you something that you can’t handle’. Don’t get me wrong, all that is 100% true.
However, no one ever tells you about the process of getting to this paradise called ‘fine-land’ (Finland, fineland.. get it? Lol. I digress). No one tells you that for months it will hurt, and then you’ll recover and be at a place of joy and peace, and then the pain will come back and it will hurt again as though it was the first time.
No one tells you that the wound that’s formed acts as a reminder, and on some days, that reminder empowers you to do great and be great, and on some days, that reminder almost destroys you and takes you to a dark place. No one tells you about that part. And if they do, it doesn’t fully prepare you for it.
Honestly the cycle gets tiring, I know. You end up questioning so many things, wondering if it’s all worth it. You even start feel inadequate, and even though you just want the cycle to end, sometimes you just don’t have the strength to fight.
Healing is not linear.
Recently I posted something on my Snapchat and one beautiful lady sent me this picture. Honestly, it’s been a while since something has resonated with me as deeply as this did.
Sure, the process isn’t all rosy, sure sometimes it takes several months and even years to completely heal, sure sometimes you just want to give up, but sweetheart.. it’s a process, one with ups and downs like any other process in life. It might seem like you’re getting no where, but the fact that you’re alive each day means that your purpose isn’t over, and that the bump you’re going through, is just that.. a bump, a lesson that’s strengthening your muscles.
So please give yourself time to heal, be patient with yourself and your wounds. It takes time to heal in places you’ve invested your heart. Don’t give up no matter what and don’t rush the process. It’s hard, but everything will fall into place when it does.
Lastly, take some time for yourself, to take care of yourself and to make sure that you’re at a place where you are healthy enough to give. Hunny, you can’t pour from an empty or broken vessel. So please, have some ‘me time’, it’s essential.
I’m actually taking time to do exactly that. I’ll be posting 3 blog posts this week, just so that you don’t miss me too much. Then I’ll be off for the rest of December to refill my tank, as well as to plan for the great things in store for us next year. Overtime I’ve found that having ‘me time’ really helps in putting everything in perspective. It also helps me get in touch with my feelings and reconnect with God. I hope that you can also do the same, even if it’s 2 hours each day. It will make a great difference.
Have you ever been at this place of wanting to give up? What did you do that helped you? Share in the comments below.
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That’s it for now. Till next time.
Remember to be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud. xx
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